It seems to me that there is a disproportionate amount of emphasis on cock, in sex blogs. Obviously I am in the minority in this view, or there wouldn’t be so much of it, but I just want to take the stand for the non-cocksluts here.
I am excessively fond of the cocks belonging to the men that I am excessively fond of. I have no interest in looking at pictures of cocks I do not appreciate in real life, and nor do I speculate about the cocks of men I meet, or pass in the street. I don’t fantasise about giving strangers blowjobs - actually, I rarely fantasise about blowjobs at all. Reading about blowjobs bores me - perhaps because they so often (but, ok, not invariably) seem to be either an opportunity for the blower to emphasize how good she is at it , or for the blowee to emphasise how much people love sucking his cock. it’s not that I don’t like sucking cock, or having some man come in my mouth: I do. But I love it when I have the urge to do it, not in the abstract, and not necessarily when someone else wants me to do it. I had a conversation with a lover a while back in which he said he had never asked for a blowjob, and never would, because he would rather know that the woman was doing it because she really wanted to. At the time, I scoffed at him, but I agree - and it also occurred to me that I have never requested oral sex from a man.
I’ve said it before: I’m cuntcentric. In answer to the question: Giving or receiving? my unhesitating answer is receiving. Quite honestly, I have a high opinion of my pussy and what it has to offer, and I’m perfectly comfortable with the whole concept of having it worshiped, more or less incessantly. So maybe it’s just my bias that makes me think that a) there just aren’t enough posts about cunnilingus, and b) those that there are are often more insightful than those about fellatio. It seems to me that the literary cunnilinguists are often more inclined to be specific about their reactions and enjoyment, and less inclined to go into technical details.
So this is a call for more pussyposts, and nominations for good ones. Get it your best shot, cuntlickers of the blogging world.
March 1, 2008 at 5:40 pm
Hear hear!
My I nominate one of my own humble efforts (I say humble, though it was Fleshbotted, and I’m quietly proud of it):
http://aimingtoarouse.org/2007/08/12/stop/
March 2, 2008 at 1:47 am
Bravo on two points:
ANY sexual act is more pleasurable when the other party wants to do it… (”he would rather know that the woman was doing it because she really wanted to”)
And yes, we need more posts on cunnilingus.
I love cunnilingus, and while I have just started my blog (http://goddessforaday.blogspot.com/) look forward to many posts on cunnilingus.
The Counselor
March 2, 2008 at 1:54 am
I never get tired of cunnilingus - and while I really appreciate getting it and it brings me to bucking orgasm, I adore giving.
I wax lyrical about it here… and Figleaf’s post here is also excellent.
xx Dee
March 2, 2008 at 5:30 am
hmmm… interesting point. tho i must admit to feeling a bit self-conscious about having my cunt worshiped. i’m trying to accept with grace the philosopher’s appreciation of it, but all those consciousness-raising sessions back in the 70s still didn’t manage to make me think it is beautiful.
as for cunnilingus, i’ve been on both ends. i found performing it to be very frustrating. i had thought oh, sure, this’ll be easy, i’ve got one of these, i know what i like! but somehow i forgot that the reason it’s so easy to masturbate is that i get instant biofeedback, so to speak, which of course when you’re licking away just doesn’t happen. i’m now more sympathetic to male performance anxiety on that front.
with cocksucking, there’s no question when i’ve got it right…
but ok, i’ll take your challenge, and try to work up a pussypost. now if only i can learn how to embed links so i can send people back here for the start of it all.
March 2, 2008 at 6:09 am
I will answer your call. A beautiful pussy is worth worshipping, and so much more…
March 2, 2008 at 9:30 am
I’ve posted my good share of tasty cunnilingus posts and you may be correct that I take well more care in describing those sensations, tastes and detail. I’ll take your request into consideration as I write;-)
Nice new home you have here, mind if I lay back on the couch and kick up my feet? LOL
March 2, 2008 at 12:18 pm
Thanks, Cyrano. That is indeed a worthy effort, and I shall add it to my list.
Counselor, I look forward to that
Thanks, Dee, I knew I could count on you, and I already had Figleaf’s post in mind
Attaboy, Phil!
Fury, that is indeed true - and actually you have some decent blowjob stuff too. Please make yourself perfectly at home - anything else I can do for you?
March 2, 2008 at 8:00 pm
Let’s put “getting” and “giving” aside and focus on sharing. Sharing is much more erotic.
When I worship a pussy I look forward to being told how to do better. This increases my pleasure. I especially like you to ride my face so that I can experience your control and urgency.
I also want to explore your whole body with my lips and tongue and find your special places and feather stroke all of you with my fingers. All the while you’re urging me on and we’re sharing the pleasure.
March 2, 2008 at 11:15 pm
Don, I agree, sharing is good, but there’s also value in giving and receiving… but yes, sharing in the sense that both participants are getting pleasure from the activity.
March 2, 2008 at 11:39 pm
It’s funny but I grew up with such an aversion to even mentioning fellatio, let alone asking for it, let alone *receiving* it when a partner initiated it, that anymore the very idea of letting myself get one is kind of… refreshing. Which, really, is my way of saying I feel like I can really relate to this post, Z.
On the other hand I loved the idea of cunnilingus from the moment I heard about it from other kids late in elementary school. Possibly because unlike intercourse, which I couldn’t really picture what was supposed to go where, I could relate to the idea.
I also, however, kept for a little too long the grade-schooler notion that you could “drive women wild” with it in sort of a mechanistic way. Ironically it wasn’t until I got over that attitude that I was able to be comfortable letting others eat me.
Finally, though, I have to say you’re right that you can get too abstract about it’s merits and demerits and what it might all mean when, really, it just feels, looks, tastes, smells, and sounds good to do it, it feels good to your partner (although you want to ask since not everyone enjoys it), and it feels good just knowing it feels good.
Wonderful topic, Z. Glad you liked that post of mine (I remember just feeling totally inspired when I wrote it) and I’ll see if I can’t move cunnilingus more to the front of my idea pool.
figleaf
March 3, 2008 at 1:29 pm
It’s interesting… cunnilingus has been more on my mind recently.
I went for a long time without it… it really became a non-issue for me, and I couldn’t subscribe to the theory that receiving is as important as giving. I still struggle with it, but when I give in to getting … heaven.
There are times, I think, when cunnilingus is exactly what I want. I had a moment like that last night, when all I wanted to do was lie back, prop myself on my elbows, spread, and be worshiped. Unfortunately, there was no one in person to help me with that particular fantasy, but I did get to talk about it at length online with someone. It’s a start.
I have just the post in mind… I’ll work on it today.
March 3, 2008 at 4:29 pm
“Quite honestly, I have a high opinion of my pussy and what it has to offer, and I’m perfectly comfortable with the whole concept of having it worshiped, more or less incessantly.”
So do I! Nothing wrong with knowing that you have power to wield with a lovely pussy. More power to you in fact…
I thoroughly enjoy what I have read here so far. Glad to have found your blog!
~ NS
March 3, 2008 at 4:55 pm
This is an especially interesting topic because it raises the issue of giving and getting.
My view is that in sharing there’s great giving and getting but you can’t tell the difference between giving and getting.
March 4, 2008 at 6:17 am
A part of me can’t separate cockcentricity with penis envy (the concept or underlying idea of it), sometimes cock-centered posts give me the impression that women ‘need’ to have a cock in order to be sexual, sexy, voracious, erotic, or whatever else, and I think ‘hmmm sure whatever’ and I (like you) prefer fellatio in certain moments, or as a natural evolution rather than an expectation. It’s when it becomes an expectation that it becomes a chore - and that’s when I switch off blowjobs and cocks.
March 4, 2008 at 7:18 am
My first visit to your new home, Z, and I’m glad I didn’t bring any silly ‘ol cock toy candles to blow for your blog warming and birthday (we share a birthday week).
xx
March 4, 2008 at 6:32 pm
Figleaf, that’s interesting. Perhaps it is male reticence that is really responsible for the innumerable fellatio posts
Marianne, I’ve often been told I think like a man about sex - it had never crossed my mind that me receiving was not unimaginable fun for everyone concerned
Naughty Secretary, hurrah for those of us who have high opinions of our private parts, and I’m glad you’re enjoying the blog
Don, yes, that’s a good point. I guess that in getting, one hopes that the other participant is also getting pleasure from it.
Anastasia, exactly right about the expectation. I don’t know if it’s penisenvy or a perceived idea of sexiness that is to blame - but having said that, I’m not going to pretend that I don’t believe that there aren’t plenty of genuine cockworshipers out there.
Sabine, if you’d brought them, I’d have blown them with pleasure
March 6, 2008 at 10:42 pm
Sometimes I just dont think Im very good at receiving. I shall have to give some thought to the reasons why…
March 7, 2008 at 4:36 pm
I LOVE pussy, and men often don’t realize the pleasures of going down on a woman (or two in my case)! The texture is so unique (over-ripe figs be damned), the taste is sweet (normal hygene being required, of course, like with a woman going down on a man), and the effect on your lover is often electric.
March 9, 2008 at 3:14 am
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March 13, 2008 at 9:45 pm
“Quite honestly, I have a high opinion of my pussy and what it has to offer, and I’m perfectly comfortable with the whole concept of having it worshiped, more or less incessantly.”
Me too. I think my pussy is a wonderful wonderful thing and that it deserves care, attention and pleasure. Being eaten out is such a beautifully decadent feeling…*sigh*
But only when my partner wants to, everything has to be consensual for me to find it sexy…the idea of him doing it because I said so removes all the fun. Luckily after a nervy start he adores it, and takes as much pride in polishing his oral technique as his fucking technique.
March 14, 2008 at 7:09 pm
Oh God, I can’t believe I missed replying to comments here. I’m so ashamed!
Cake, I’d be interested to hear your answers, when you figure them out. I have a few theories, but I don’t know if they bear water.
Tom, I’m glad to hear it. I think I’ve probably been lucky in that I’ve known quite a few orally-fixated men.
Viragobites, I agree that knowing he really wants to be there is part of the turn-on, and I’m glad you’re getting the good stuff
I am compiling a round-up of pussy posts, although mainly so far I’m compiling them in my head, which is not a good place for them to be.